15 Gift Ideas That Aren’t Toys

Disclosure Statement15 Gift Ideas that Aren't ToysWith Chanukah starting tonight, my kids are looking forward to the candles, the latkes, the sufganiyot, and – let’s face it – the presents.

We don’t do extravagant gifts, but my kids usually have *something* to open every night. This year, however, my husband and I have decided to step away from things – particularly toys – and move more toward “experiences”.

We have several reasons for wanting to do this:

  1. We are very fortunate to be able to give our kids everything that they need – and many things that they want. Piling on eight more things feels excessive and unnecessary, especially during a holiday that isn’t really even supposed to be about gift-giving.
  2. We want to give gifts that help to nurture our children’s relationships with their siblings and/or with us – rather than toys that they will play with alone or separately. Especially when those toys will end up becoming “power ploys” that they wield over each other. (“You can’t play with that! It’s miiiiine! Moooooooom!”)
  3. The expectation of a tangible gift to open every night can sometimes lead to it not feeling very special (another night, another present) – which can sometimes lead to a lack of appreciation or gratefulness. Thank G-d, we have great kids, but the “What am I getting tonight?” question doesn’t strike me as the kind of value we want to attach to Chanukah.

All of that said, Chanukah is still a fun opportunity to treat our children and ourselves, and we don’t want to make the holiday completely austere. Therefore, we have decided to focus more on experiences and gifts that the children and/or our family can enjoy together.

If you’d like to move more in that direction as well, here is a list of 15 Gift Ideas That Aren’t Toys. We aren’t doing all of these this year, but we did consider them – and might well do them in them future.


1. Tickets to an event. Whether to the movies, the circus or the symphony, tickets to an event are a fun opportunity to spend one-on-one time with mom or dad. I remember fondly getting dressed up to go to the ballet with my mom. It’s a great opportunity for your child to feel grown-up and special.

2. Classes or Lessons – Last year, my children’s grandparents got them a year’s worth of music lessons (we have a drum, piano and guitar player now!). It was a very generous gift, and one that my family will benefit from for years to come.

3. Memberships – Do your kids love the local zoo, aquarium, art museum, science center or children’s museum? A year-long membership is a gift that keeps on giving. Even better, most memberships have reciprocity with similar attractions in other cities. Our science museum membership has gotten us into five other science centers this year alone. It’s a great way to help keep costs down when traveling. Memberships also make great gifts from grandparents.

4. Dress-Up Clothing – Depending on the age and personality of your children, dress-up clothes can be the best gift. Instead of buying costly princess costumes from Disney, you can hit up your local thrift store. My boys are sadly past this stage, but for my daughter, I’ve found formal dresses, accessories (I once found a tiara at my Saver’s), shoes and handbags.

SI and SI Kids

5. Magazine Subscriptions – My boys are sports fanatics, so a subscription to Sports Illustrated or Sports Illustrated Kids is perfect. Not only do they receive mail every week or month, but they get to learn more (by reading!) about a subject they adore. If you order a subscription now, the first issue won’t get delivered for another 8-10 weeks. I recommend buying one copy to wrap up – with a note that a year’s worth are coming soon!

6. A Savings Account – One year, I started savings accounts for each of my children with an $18 deposit in each one. They save one-third of their allowance, so each month they get to see their principal grow – and learn a little bit about the power of compounding interest as well. Our kids’ accounts are at Capital One 360 (click on “Learn More” and then “Kids Savings Account”).

7. Personalized Luggage – My older two are at the age when sleep-overs are commonplace – and even weekends away from home (Shabbatonim, a special trip with their grandparents, etc). A duffle or suit case, monogrammed with their initials, makes packing for the trip even more fun! For older children, you can also get them a toiletry case with their initials. (My kids still throw a toothbrush in a Ziploc bag and think they’re good to go.) I buy our personalized luggage on sale at Lands’ End with a coupon code.

8. Sleeping Bag – Again, with all the overnights that my kids enjoy, their own sleeping bag might be a nice idea. Be sure to get one that comes with a stuff sack. Otherwise, you will forever be fighting to get that thing rolled up and secured. Trust me.

Family Yearbook

9. Photo Album – For years, I used to make each child a small flip album of their year in review. Now, I make one big family “yearbook” – but that usually doesn’t happen until January at the earliest, so it’s no longer a Chanukah present. On a related note, I’ve had two kids turn 10 so far, and I made them a special album commemorating their first decade. I was not a good “baby book” mama, so this album makes up for the lack of documentation. Both boys loved it! (PS If you do make up photo albums, a copy for the grandparents is sure to be appreciated!)

10. A watch – My oldest got a watch last year from his grandparents. A watch is a “thing”, yes, but goodness it has had so many practical applications for our life. He sets an alarm to wake himself up in the morning – and is much more timely about coming back from playdates (which I’ve been informed are no longer called playdates when you’re 12.)

11. Board games – Yes, board games could technically be considered toys, but board games (or even a deck of cards – my kids are SO into card games lately) are great for family fun. This year, we will have one Game Night for Chanukah – each child will open a small game (purchased for very little cost from Amazon) and we’ll play all three of them after candle lighting.

12. Books – I love books. Who doesn’t, right? I think a fun way to give the gift of books is a gift certificate for a used book store. Their money will go so much further! For pre-readers (or reluctant readers – I have one of each), audiobooks are a great idea, too. You can get a FREE one-month trial to Audible.com right now, which comes with 2 free books. (If you’re a member of Amazon Prime, that free month becomes three free months!)

No Toy Gift Idea

13. A New Pet – Caution: If you aren’t prepared for the expense and commitment of taking on a new pet, please, don’t give one to your child(ren)! On the other hand, if you are anyway ready to add a furry friend to your lives, Chanukah is a great time to do it. Last year, we brought home our little Mac – short for Maccabee! – on the 3rd night of Chanukah. I’m fairly certain it was their best gift ever. If a new pet isn’t on the agenda, my kids have loved volunteering at the ASPCA or even visiting a pet store on “adoption day” to cuddle with some of their new puppies and kittens.

14. Homemade Gift Certificates –You can make up a booklet of free or low-cost gift certificates to be redeemed throughout the year by your child. From a “stay up late” pass to a “movie night with mom” pass, there are an infinite number of ideas you could use depending the age and interests of your child. To see more ideas and get a free template, go HERE.

15. Cooking Project – If your kids like to help in the kitchen, this is a great way to involve them in some cooking fun. This year for Chanukah, I’m going to give them a bag with some marshmallows, pretzels, Hershey kisses, frosting and sprinkles to make a version of these, together with me. (Please pray for patience. I am going to need it.)

Chanukah Dreidels

Do you like to avoid giving lots of toys and other “things” at Chanukah? What are some of your favorite Gift Ideas that Aren’t Toys?

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  1. A few years ago we started doing theme nights. When I suggested we not do it this year my oldest (10) was upset…so we are sticking to it a little longer. I change them up a little each year but the first night is always The night of Chanukah and they get a new dreidel or something for the holiday. We do night of comfort (read: new pajamas/slippers), night of knowledge (read: books), Night of games (new board games), night of music, night of movies, night of giving (we pick a charity as a family and donate the money from our tzedakah box) and the last night is always night of fun (the present they *really* want. We’ve done night of togetherness (tickets to a movie or program) and a few other things throughout the year. I like it because they do open something small. Most of the first seven nights are things I would have just bought them but there is anticipation to open it. I have a wall menorah where I put the candles numbered and they open each night to reveal the night’s theme. It has worked for us so far 😉

  2. Adriana Miller says:

    This post reminded me why I love your site so much! Hanukkah Sameach!

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