On occasion, I’ve gotten emails from readers asking me, “How do you do it all?”
And I always have to laugh, because I so do not do it all.
Yesterday I had a reader ask me for my tips on “time management”.
Oh that gave me a good chuckle.
But I also felt for her.
Because she reads my blog and thinks she’s seeing someone who has it all together.
Oh the power of the Internet to belie.
I know how she feels. I’ve projected perfect-home/perfect-body/perfect-marriage and a whole bunch of other unrealistic images onto bloggers I read.
And fallen short in my mind’s comparison every time.
But here’s the reality.
It’s 11 a.m. CST on Erev Shabbat and my bread machine just beeped. I have to go braid my challah. But I haven’t even shopped yet for lunch tomorrow (and we’re having guests).
And I think dinner tonight just got down-graded to spaghetti and meatballs.
Because I can’t do it all.
Not even close.
We started homeschooling our two sons this year. (I’ll write more about that later – but I feel like I’ve been hiding something from you guys by not saying anything until now. Anyway, if you notice that there are huge chunks of time that I’m just not responding on Facebook or Twitter or approving your comments – now you know why.)
If I thought time management was a challenge before, now I really know what “challenge” means.
More and more, I am realizing the value in saying “no”.
If you say it enough, by the way, people stop asking – and then you don’t even have to freak out about having to say no.
The ONLY things I do these days are school my boys, blog, and do my best to take care of my family.
And even those balls don’t always stay in the air.
The myth that one person can do it all is just that. It’s a myth.
We all need help. We all need to prioritize – ruthlessly. And we all obsess over the the stuff we’re not doing, or not doing “perfectly”, that so-and-so seems to do so effortlessly.
So if you’ve been thinking, “Oh that Mara from KOAB – she has it all together. I wish I could be more like that,” just STOP.right.there.
Believe me. I do NOT do it all. Nor do I have it remotely together.
Not even close.